Episode 12
₿HS012: Teaching The Art of Learning
SHOW TOPIC:
Josh Waitzkin brings the proof-of-work when it comes to deep learning and flow. His techniques about learning to learn can be applied anything. In this episode, Tali and Scott apply them to homeschooling.
IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:
- Why “life history” resources, namely biographies and autobiographies, make such great learning tools
- Josh Waitzkin, the author of “The Art of Learning” describes concepts that can make us as parents better teachers
- The techniques he describes can be used by anyone, any age
- Because humans relate to things emotionally, reading a living book is the best to get kids interested
- Waitzkin strategically thinks about the long term goal (although he does not use the word’s “low time preference”)
- Waitzkin epitomizes anit-fragile
- He also goes into great depth about reaching “flow”
- Immediate feedback is key to flow and key to learning
- These learning lessons can be applied to anything
- You can never out success the strength of your character
- Waitzkin is a master of seeing the world from his opponents’ point of view
- Constant feedback = adaptive learning
- Being able to stay in flow when bad things happen is more than understanding your opponents, you really have to understand yourself
- “Staying soft” emphasizes the importance of finding a state of relaxed concentration, where one can perform at their best in the face of stress
- “Investing in loss” = seeking out learning from all setbacks and other forms of feedback
- Teachers, like coaches, need to understand the natural inclinations of their students
- Balance of encouragement and correction is a fine line to walk
- Importance of always keeping a beginner’s mind
- That sense of anti-fragility cannot happen if kids are always winning and not dealing with adversity (back to investment in loss)
- Visualization is powerful skill to teach kids
- Another ant-fragile habit to teach kids is to keep a learning journal
- Don’t trust. Verify. Listen to the audible book and pick just one thing that helps you and/or your kids.
- Effort trumps talent: Tali challenges the cultural tendency to focus on talent and/or lack of talent, e.g., message to oneself “I’m not good at math”
- Waitzkin goes deep on everything he does
- You can use leverage technology to get all types of feedback
- Train kids to be able to focus in the middle of chaos because conditions are never going to be perfect
- Face your losses. Don’t shy away from them.
- To succeed fast, fail faster
- Use living books. Have discussions about them with your kids.
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW:
- Josh Waitzkin’s “The Art of Learning: An Inner Journey to Optimal Performance” Amazon
Other Mentions
- "Team of Rivals: The Political Genius of Abraham Lincoln" by Doris Kearns Goodwin Amazon
- The movie ”Searching for Bobby Fischer”
- Daniel Coyle’s “The Talent Code: Greatness Isn't Born. It's Grown. Here's How.” Amazon
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Transcript
Hi everyone.
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:In today's podcast, Talia and
I are going to review a helpful
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:resource for homeschooling parents.
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:And this is a book that is also very
appropriate for your kids curriculum.
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:So really quick, before we jump
in, I want to take just a moment to
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:explain some context of what we're,
of what we're going to talk about.
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:It is based on a method of study that
involves biographies and autobiographies.
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:So you might've heard biographical
research or life history, and it
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:is exactly what it sounds like.
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:So the approach is essentially
doing a, a study of someone's
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:life, their experiences, and.
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:And then from that, you learn
about the history or the culture
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:or social context, other things
that help shape those experiences.
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:And it's very, very effective.
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:Especially with, um,
especially with audible books.
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:You can use this with very young children.
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:I say this as an engineer who
did not enjoy or appreciate
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:history while I was in school.
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:An example I have of, to show how
effective it is, is a book that I really
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:enjoy listening to called Team of Rivals.
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:This is about Lincoln.
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:And it was written by a
woman named Doris Goodwin.
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:And it basically explains how he came
to be president and his relationship
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:with his cabinet, which was his rivals.
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:Hugely interesting, even as an engineer.
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:So today's podcast, we're going to
use this kind of technique in the
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:book where we're reviewing is the
art of learning by Josh Waiskin.
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:I hope you enjoy.
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:And with that, let's jump in.
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:Tali: You have to be able to get past
that the opening move and have enough
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:endurance and mental discipline to
get through to the end of the game.
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:And that's the comparison he
had between , the high time
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:preference and low time preference.
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:Scott: he applies the same type
of methodology that he did in
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:chess matches into martial arts.
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:You could apply that to anything.
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:You could apply that to yourself and
becoming the best homeschooling parent.
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:Ever.
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:,
Tali: The highest level athletes all learn this from their performance
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:coaches, but for whatever reason it
doesn't trickle down to common education
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:Scott: you're not going to go
through life and not have setbacks.
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:So your, your choice is
what do you do about it?
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:Right.
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:, if you read this book and you're
inspired, maybe you can learn to invest
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:in loss and use it to make you yourself
better, use it to advance your goals.
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:Tali: For the homeschoolers out there,
I would encourage you to use living
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:books like this as much as possible
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:Scott: Welcome Bitcoin homeschoolers.
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:Today, Talia and I are going to
look at a resource that you might
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:not expect would be helpful.
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:But as you, uh, as we go through this
conversation, I think that you'll
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:find, , there's, there's something
in here for parents and there's
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:something in here for, for kids.
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:Specifically, we're talking
about the book called The Art
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:of Learning by Josh Waitzkin.
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:Josh Waitzkin is best known as the
person that the movie, Seeking,
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:uh, Bobby Fischer was based on.
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:Tali: In search of Bobby Fisher.
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:From a
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:Scott: Alright, thank you.
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:In search of Bobby Fisher.
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:So, from a homeschooling standpoint,
the first thing that I want to say is to
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:be open minded about how we teach kids
and not just give them a list of facts.
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:The idea of using biographies, or in
this case, maybe, An autobiography.
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:This is a way of helping someone really
understand the context of what some of
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:these historic figures have gone through.
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:And in this case, this
person is still alive.
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:So I guess maybe not historic, but
it's a lot more personal than a list
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:of names and dates, and especially
if you listen to it on audible, you
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:can actually hear it in their own.
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:On voice for, the reason Josh Waiskin
kind of hit, he had a few things
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:for, for me personally, he talks
about a lot of concepts that we as
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:parents can use to be better teachers.
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:And he also has a very
interesting story, so you can
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:either take away pieces of this.
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:And how you teach or maybe
for the older kids, they can
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:actually read it themselves.
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:So depending on the age of your,
your students, they can be, they
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:can take different things from it.
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:So, all right, tell me, do you,
we, I have a list of things
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:to, deep dive on this thing.
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:Is there one particular area that stood
out that you'd like to start with?
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:Tali: Well, in referencing what you said
about reading autobiography as a way
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:of kids learning, it's, it's basically
if you, if you know the Charlotte Mason
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:method, it's basically equivalent to what
they're saying about learning through
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:living books because authors who write.
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:On a subject that they're absolutely
passionate about have a tone
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:and a voice that comes through
that is absolutely absent for
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:Things that you would read in a textbook
that's by a subject that's written
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:by what they would quote unquote call
experts, but The emotionally it's flat.
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:And as human beings, we relate to
things emotionally first and foremost.
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:And so learning, reading a living
book written by an author who's
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:passionate about the subjects is
absolutely the best way to get your kids
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:interested in the information itself.
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:So
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:for people who are not interested in
chess or in Tai Chi and the martial arts
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:aspect of Tai Chi can still learn a lot
about his learning process because you do
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:get emotionally sucked into his stories.
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:Scott: Yeah, his stories, they're
about what he went through.
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:Learning the stresses, people who
cheated on him, how he dealt with
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:that when he got to martial arts,
he basically went from literally
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:knowing nothing to, to world champion.
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:And he's a deep, deep thinker.
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:So he, he thinks about the longterm,
he doesn't call it low time preference,
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:but he definitely thinks about the
longterm and he's definitely anti
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:fragile he'll, he'll hit a setback.
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:Someone will do something and it'll upset
him or he'll lose or whatever it is.
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:And he will journal and he will say,
what, what state was I in at this time?
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:And then he'll go back and
then he'll, he'll study more.
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:He, he talked about the number of
times that he would review his games
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:and what he was feeling on them.
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:The number of times that he would
review his tapes from the martial arts.
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:So I would, I just want to
get this out, out in front.
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:To me, he exhibits the qualities of
someone who can really get into flow.
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:And.
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:There's, uh, my understanding of,
of, of flow that you, you need
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:to have clear specific goals.
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:And he definitely did that.
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:He had these long term objectives.
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:You need immediate feedback.
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:And this is where he just excels
and where the, there's a ton to
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:learn in from the art of learning.
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:And then the challenge has to be something
that's outside your current skill level.
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:And so he just, he applies the same
type of methodology that he did in
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:chess matches into martial arts.
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:And to me, that means you
could apply that to anything.
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:You could apply that to yourself and
becoming the best homeschooling parent.
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:Ever.
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:You could apply that to teaching your
kids on how they can get into flow,
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:how they can deal with setbacks,
how they can deal with stress,
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:how they can, how they can learn.
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:And you can apply it to your career.
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:You could apply it to anywhere.
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:It's, it's, it's, uh, I think it's
really a good, the, the name of
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:the book being art of learning.
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:Really captures it and he just proves
it with two very different areas and he
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:makes a lot of analogies between them.
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:And and then tolly you you hit on this
he uses a lot of stories in this thing So
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:this is something you can actually listen
to it's not dry at all Some of the stories
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:will really pull you in all right.
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:Tali: Me add something.
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:Let me add something.
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:So, he draws in an actually,
he doesn't draw an analogy.
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:Um, he states in the book that this
is referencing his chess games.
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:He said that who he was as a person was
absolutely reflected in the way he played.
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:And so you can't really separate the two.
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:And I've heard people say that your
success can never, you can never out
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:success the strength of a character.
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:And in that way, if we.
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:Allow our kids to listen to this, or even
if we listen to it and then relate the
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:lessons to our kids, we can stress the
importance of not the accomplishments
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:or the outcome of your efforts, but
rather your personal growth through
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:the journey, because he does reference
that over and over again as he's going
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:through the difference, the struggle,
the struggle of losing and then having to
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:maintain his composure when he was under
pressure and how he was under pressure.
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:Overcame those mental, growth milestones.
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:Scott: Maybe we can tell a couple
of the stories that he, what he did.
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:So the, the ability from a game
theory standpoint of being able
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:to put yourself in somebody else's
shoes and seeing it from their
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:perspective, he's a master at this.
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:He, he, he would, regardless of
whether it was a chess opponent
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:or a martial arts opponent.
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:He really did.
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:He really went deep on what they,
what they were thinking, how they
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:reacted, not just like their, their
strategies or their techniques.
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:He would go really deep.
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:And then he would use this,
this, this adaptive learning.
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:He was getting constant feedback and,
and it wasn't just like, Hey, good job or
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:bad job or whatever, you know, whatever
after a chess match or another match.
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:This was a matter of saying, well,
if you tell someone feedback or
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:you give someone feedback right
after they've had a challenge,
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:they're not ready to receive that.
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:So even knowing when and how to
communicate that, that feedback.
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:He would, he would even adapt, he would
continue to adapt not just his techniques,
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:but he would continue to adapt his
learning techniques on how he would do it.
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:And the idea of these constant feedback
loops is really, really interesting.
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:And you start off with, he talked about
making smaller and smaller circles.
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:You'd, you can start out with,
with whatever it is, you've
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:got to learn the basic things.
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:And then once you're, once you've mastered
those, and you can learn the next level
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:of the basic things and the next level,
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:Tali: The
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:Scott: The thing that sticks out to
me is In today's society, there's
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:always somebody to blame, right?
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:No one wants to, it's not
like we teach responsibility.
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:At West Point, we'd say, one of your
responses was, it was like, yes, sir.
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:No, sir.
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:You could say, , sir, may I ask
a question, but it was no excuse.
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:He didn't, it was one of your responses
was not, , someone else hurt me.
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:Or someone else cheated and
he gave specific examples.
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:So there was a, an individual
when he was going through his,
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:his chess career, who would
intentionally distract his opponents.
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:And he would get up and talk to you.
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:It's like he was speaking another
language, Russian or whatever it
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:was, or he would tap or he would
do, he was doing things that
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:were clearly against the rules.
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:And one reaction could
be to go and complain.
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:You go to the judges and you say, this
guy, this, this kid is doing stuff.
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:That's, that's really bad.
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:And he's, they're doing it on purpose.
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:So one of the things that Weitzkin
did is he went back and he figured out
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:Tali: So,
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:Scott: how basically to, to use that
to his own advantage on, he changed his
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:techniques playing with that individual.
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:So first of all, what is the trigger?
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:And he could recognize the trigger.
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:Okay.
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:He's using the technique.
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:And then he had practiced
how to respond to that.
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:And basically.
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:He changed the game on this person.
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:Yes, it wasn't and it wasn't just
a matter of going say hey someone
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:else You need to go police this guy.
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:He did the same thing in martial arts.
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:He was talking about the the championship
It was like every two years it was in
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:Taiwan and he got into what the culture
was like and he was going against a
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:very popular local champion and There
were blatant, blatant, blatant things,
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:times when the judges would do things
that favored the opponent, like they,
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:the opponent knew changes to the rules
ahead of time, but they wouldn't tell
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:the foreigners until the last minute.
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:And then they would try to,
they wouldn't give them food.
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:And then when they wouldn't eat, then
they would immediately call them there.
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:So now they're in a bad state when, um,
they're not in a less ideal state when
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:they're competing and they just did.
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:And then there was the calls that they
made and there was all these different
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:things that were part of the culture.
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:That essentially it's like the referee
basically favoring one, one team.
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:So the next time he went back, he had
changed a lot of different things.
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:And in the moment when these things
would happen, he was able to still focus.
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:So long way of saying in this world, there
are going to be people out there who do
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:things to, to hurt you, who don't play
fair, bad things are going to happen.
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:So it's, it's a lot more
than just the psychology of.
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:The opponent and thinking through step
by step, it's also knowing yourself
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:and really understanding yourself.
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:Now imagine if you had those skills,
imagine if your kids had those skills,
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:how much better off they would be.
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:I
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:Tali: I think the illustration he
made in the book was staying soft.
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:So in the case when his opponent was
cheating, he could get angry and allow
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:that to break his concentration, or
he can train himself to work with
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:it and win despite the cheating.
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:So that was a self improvement moment
rather than a anger, uh, lash out or
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:just play victim kind of mentality.
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:And obviously it's, it's unfair.
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:Nobody's going to question that statement,
but You after that, what do you do?
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:and he always just dealt with it and
worked with what he had to work with
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:and Then try to figure out a way to beat
it one example he gave was the the time
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:when he was crossing the street in New
York and this lady Next to him had her
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:earphones in and she looked at the down
the wrong side of the street stepped off
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:the curb And a bike messenger almost hit
her instead of realizing her mistake,
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:which was that she wasn't paying attention
and she looked down the wrong side of
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:the street, she turned and yelled at the
bike messenger that was speeding away.
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:Well, as she was doing that, she
missed another car that was coming
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:around the corner and she was hit.
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:So the lesson was, . You can recognize
your mistake and correct your own
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:actions, or you can focus your attention
on blaming and then potentially hurt
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:yourself even more in the long run.
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:Scott: Right, you're managing
stress at a level that most
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:people just don't, don't do.
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:So it's the soft zone.
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:Yeah, that, that was excellent.
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:Another, another area that he
talked about was investing in loss.
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:So throughout the book, no matter
what he was talking about, no
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:matter how frustrating and how
bad things were, and he would
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:document in his journal how he felt.
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:I, I'm mad, I'm hurt, I'm this, I'm
whatever, but he, he actually embraces
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:the idea that you have to make mistakes.
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:You have to have losses.
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:And if you, if you embrace loss as
a way to, to take from it something
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:that can make you better than.
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:Then you're, you're
basically in, it's weird.
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:It's a weird way of saying it,
but you're investing in the loss.
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:So you have to get yourself out there.
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:You have to take action.
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:And then from a feedback standpoint, it's
not just saying I had that experience
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:and then I want to go forget about it.
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:It was more of the, it was much more
of a, let's, let's dissect this thing.
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:Let me go and see the eye movements of
my, uh, Opponents, they're the smallest
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:way that they would shift their weight or
not shift their weight or maybe someone
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:would change their breathing right
before they would do a certain thing.
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:I mean you're telling my new,
but he didn't start there.
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:He had a, um, he went through
a lot of, a lot of pain and,
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:Tali: through a lot of,
a lot of pain and, um,
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:Scott: also lose enough
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:Tali: That you are continuously improving.
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:And that is a very difficult
balance to achieve.
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:And that is down to the player
or the competitor and also
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:a great coach in the book.
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:He also makes a comparison towards
the end of his chess career.
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:He was losing his passion and he Was
trying to break through to the next level
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:and he had a change of coaches and he
had two choices He had one coach who was
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:exceptionally Single minded about the
best way to train the students So his
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:approach was to break the student down
so that he can build them up in what
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:he believed was the optimal way and his
way of playing was very very different
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:from Josh's natural inclination to play
The other coach spend the first part of
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:his coaching with a student by observing
the student and how the student played.
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:And then his method was to help
the student excel in the way that
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:the student naturally played.
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:So two very, very different approaches.
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:And Josh makes a comparison
between the two of them.
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:One, the one that he chose to go with,
Which ultimately ended his career was the
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:guy who made him feel like he shouldn't
trust himself because he was instructed
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:to think, what would his coach do?
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:And in that way, he started
to ignore his instinct.
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:He felt like he wasn't playing himself.
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:He watched, he felt like he was
watching himself play from a distance.
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:And so.
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:That balance of encouragement and
correction, that's a fine line to walk.
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:And so he made that comparison,
and I think it's really helpful
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:for students, not students, for
homeschooling parents to think that way.
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:You know, to, to pay really close
attention to, to that balance
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:of teaching and encouraging.
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:Scott: Right, and it might
depend on the student too, right?
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:It's not going to be the
same for each, uh, student.
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:The, the second thing about that
is, he gave a lot of thought to
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:who he wanted to be coached by.
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:This wasn't a He was very much going to
make the future he wanted, and he gave
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:a great deal of thought to who was right
for him, even though, like your, imagine
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:telling your friend, Hey, you're, you
can't be my business partner anymore
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:because we've reached a new level.
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:Tali: So,
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:Scott: terms of his, his coaching.
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:He had grown close to these,
these individuals because we
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:spent a lot of time together.
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:So he was thinking
about the bigger picture.
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:And so not only did he recognize
all the things that you just said,
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:but then he also had the courage
to, to make a decision, right?
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:Also, he talked about the beginners, I
don't know if he called it the beginner's
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:mind, but he, he was always open to
new, new perspective and approaches
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:no matter how experienced you got.
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:And I, and I think he mentioned
that, for example, a lot of chess
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:clubs , the coaches would be tempted
to just teach the kids a whole
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:bunch of starting moves, right?
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:A whole bunch of things.
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:Tali: And
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:Scott: Initially, this, depending on
the age, this can be very effective
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:in terms of helping new chess players
do very well against their opponents.
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:But in longer games and things
in tournaments and like that, it
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:doesn't necessarily help them there.
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:And, and his approach was to
focus on the fundamentals.
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:And so.
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:He just kept learning and
learning and learning.
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:He, he
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:Tali: can I, can I correct you actually?
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:So, The example you're giving about
the kids who are learning chess,
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:what the difference, the differences
between what he believes is.
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:The best way and what a lot of chess
clubs teach their students is the
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:chess clubs teach their students to
memorize aggressive opening moves
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:Whereas josh started by being trained
with three pieces on the board.
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:He was He was learning the
ending moves when there were
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:very few pieces on the board.
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:And so he learned to understand the
nuance and the power of each individual
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:piece so that he could make sense of.
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:Chaos in the middle of the play and his
strength was in the ending of the game.
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:Whereas these students were taught
with the, what you would call, um,
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:high time preference because these
were elementary school chess coaches
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:and their job was to make sure that
their students placed high that year.
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:And so if they were a third year
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:Scott: student coaches,
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:Tali: They didn't care that the
students would not progress beyond
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:seventh or eighth grade because they
were, they had done their job making
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:these kids into champions in the third
grade by teaching them or having them
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:memorize aggressive opening moves.
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:Aggressive opening moves work if you
are competing against other new players.
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:Scott: chess players.
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:Tali: But when you get into the more
experienced chess player games, you
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:have to be able to get past that
the opening move and have enough
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:endurance and mental discipline to
get through to the end of the game.
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:And that's the comparison he had
between the long, the high time
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:preference and low time preference.
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:If you have a long term view and Josh did
because he was looking, he was looking at.
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:A
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:Scott: long
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:Tali: term view.
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:What's another way of saying it?
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:He was just
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:Scott: low time preference.
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:Tali: was, yeah, he was just looking
at, you know, how would the student
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:develop eventually versus the coach
of one grade year and the chess club
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:training that was offered in that year.
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:Does that make sense?
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:Scott: sense?
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:Yeah.
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:So I, yeah, I don't disagree
with everything you're saying.
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:I remember, I recall what
you're, you're talking about.
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:And I, I think I, the, the point I was
trying to make, and maybe I blurred
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:them together was if you're, if
you're always open to, even when you
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:get better, let's say you've, you've
trained up to a certain high level.
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:Some people just stagnate there.
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:They don't make it to champion.
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:And he was always open to keep on learning
new perspectives, new approaches, new.
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:Techniques knew whatever, what it was.
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:So the, okay, here's a different example.
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:He gave, he was in the gym and
he said he wanted to get better.
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:So he, he was starting to get paired
up with, some giants of a, like
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:some huge guy who was also like
multiple black belts, whatever else.
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:And this opponent of
his, but usually just,
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:Tali: he
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:Scott: just dominate whoever he
was in the, in the dojo with him.
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:He kept every night going back and
doing it again and again and again,
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:even though he was literally getting
thrown to the mats and literally
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:getting whatever bruises you get
from being tossed around so much.
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:But through time he, he was
learning the techniques.
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:He was learning the tells, if you will.
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:And That person stagnated where they
were, whereas he was continuing to get
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:better and better looking for new things.
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:And he eventually was able one, one
day when he was there, he was able to,
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:where he got to throw in and it got
to the point where he was able to beat
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:this person who physically otherwise
would, should be dominating him.
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:And then after that, the guy didn't want
to, didn't want to fight him anymore.
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:So Josh's approach was, I'm going to
keep fighting this guy who's a lot
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:better than me until I figure it out.
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:The other guy was, as soon as
he had someone that actually
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:And so, the other guy was not a
martial arts champion, and Josh was.
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:And I think it comes back to
Josh's perspective on always
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:being open to new experiences.
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:Perspective approaches, no matter
what level you've reached, no
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:matter what level of parenting,
what level of schooling, whatever.
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:So different than what you were saying,
still an important lesson, I think.
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:Tali: Well, the thing about the, the
Um, kids were taught the aggressive
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:opening moves and will win quickly.
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:And what they, the way that they
will compare their scorecard
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:with each other would be how many
moves did you make before you won?
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:So that was their scorecard.
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:And when they got older and
they didn't win all the time
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:anymore, these kids all quit.
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:And that kind of goes back
to what you're saying is.
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:Scott: That,
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:Tali: that sense of anti fragile
mentality, that cannot happen
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:if they're always winning.
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:That's why that investment
in loss is so important.
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:Uh,
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:Scott: Hmm.
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:Yep.
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:Uh, there, there are a couple other
areas that I thought were worthy of, of.
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:Trying to put it incorporated
into your, your homeschooling
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:experience, because again, these are
things that I would like to learn.
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:I wish I had learned
earlier technique wise.
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:And there's, there are things that had.
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:Had we been able to teach our own
kids some of these principles,
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:I would love to have more
deliberately taught some of them.
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:One of the ones, and I know that, Talia,
I know we talked about visualization
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:with our, with our, with our kids, but
the, one of the examples Josh Wason
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:goes into in depth about visualization
and how he uses it to prepare for,
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:Matches how he prepares for how he's
going to handle his feelings and things.
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:One of the ones that stuck out
to me was he had, he had broken
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:his, uh, I think it was his wrist.
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:He, he, he broke something in his
hand and the doctors basically
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:said, you're not going to be able
to compete at the world championship
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:that you've been preparing for.
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:And.
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:They basically said, you're going to
cast for this long and then you're going
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:to get it off like a week or so before
then there's not enough time for you with
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:all the muscle atrophy to, to recover.
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:And he would still continue to work
out for the rest of his body, like
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:his weights and things that he could,
except for the one that was immobile
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:with the, with the cast, but he was
visualizing using it the whole time.
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:And when he actually had the cast off,
they, the doctors were amazed at how.
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:Little atrophy had actually experienced
during that, and he was actually
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:able to go back and compete and, and
the, the, I don't want to ruin the
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:punchline, but he does end up winning.
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:So the, the power of his, and I'm, and I'm
not saying you're going to go out there
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:and heal yourself, but, but man, he, he
really put in the work with visualization.
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:I mean, he really would,
uh, would do that.
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:And that is a skill that if you could
teach a young kid, you know, And just
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:so that they think that visualization is
a normal type thing to use to prepare.
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:And then afterwards, how to handle
those failures and all those
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:other things we just talked about.
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:These are great anti fragile skill
sets to, that can really help our
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:kids out as they, as they grow.
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:So anyway, did, was there
anything from a visualization
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:standpoint that stood out for you?
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:Tali: Yeah, I I think I, I shared
a study with the kids when we
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:were going through homeschooling.
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:And the example was, two, two study
groups, one study group played musical
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:scales physically on the piano every
day for a certain amount of time.
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:The other group played it only in
their mind for the same amount of time.
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:And at the end of the study,
they were supposed to play
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:the scales and the group that.
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:Okay.
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:Did the visualization actually performed
better I can't reference that study you
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:can probably Google it but I I remember
talking about it with our kids because it
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:is so powerful and is so Unconventional
it the highest level athletes all learn
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:this from their performance coaches,
but for whatever reason it doesn't
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:trickle down to common education
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:Scott: Yeah, including visualization.
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:I don't think we're experts on
it, but including visualization
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:and what you teach your kids, uh,
that's pretty, pretty important.
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:Another thing that I, that I thought
would be a good habit to teach
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:kids would be the learning journal.
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:And it's more than, um, like I've
already referenced it a couple
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:of times in the conversation.
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:But he would go back, for example, and
look at his tapes and not just like,
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:whether it's chess or the martial
arts, and he would look at them and
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:look at them and look at them again,
and he would go back to his journal
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:and he would link the two together.
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:So.
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:What had gone on before that event,
what, what did he miss during it that
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:he could now the time had passed and
he was more calm, he could, he could
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:identify and then make a plan for it.
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:But he would realize, Hey, I
really was thrown off my game
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:Tali: at
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:Scott: this point because
this is what I was feeling.
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:And he would, he would have kind
of this insight about himself.
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:But it was only because he had
been keeping a journal of his,
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:his, his progress and was able
to go back and then apply it.
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:So it was, it was, it was more than
just keeping a journal and then you,
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:you don't go back and look at it.
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:It, this was a matter of, he was
proactively using it as a, as a tool.
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:And for, for super young kids,
just the habit of journaling is, is
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:probably all you would need to do.
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:Uh, but I, I would think that, you know,
junior high, high school, being able to
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:go back through past experiences and.
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:And link, link of what you were
feeling, how did you prepare, et cetera.
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:That's an interesting thing.
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:I don't, uh, I think very, very, very
few people or a very small percent of
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:the other population would do that.
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:And the ones that are doing it are
probably the ones that have some kind
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:of professional coach, but nothing stops
you or their kids from, from doing that.
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:Anybody can do that.
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:Tali: That
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:Scott: That was another thing too, is
that these are all things that there
526
:was nothing that he said where you
said, man, he just had a God given
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:skill and nobody else can do anything.
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:The things that he was listing out
were like, it was like, wow, those are
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:things that anybody can use as a tool.
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:Maybe not everybody will achieve the
same, same level, but there's nothing
531
:about these techniques that, that
are only, you know, for some given
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:select few of these, the things that
he listed out for these different
533
:learning techniques, anybody can apply.
534
:And again, I go back to, wouldn't
you want your kids to have
535
:that, these kind of lessons.
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:So even if you only took one thing from
the book, , as I, as I think about this,
537
:if we were sitting down with someone like
in person and talking about this, even if
538
:you took away just one thing from the book
that can help improve either you or your
539
:kids, uh, your, your habits in your life,
like, You, you would want to do that.
540
:And, um, you know, don't trust
us, you know, verify for yourself.
541
:Don't trust verify.
542
:Um, the worst that you have is
you lose a couple hours, few
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:hours listening to an audible book
544
:Tali: Doing it.
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:Um,
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:Scott: doing it.
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:Um, but I liked the journal.
548
:Did you, did you have any
thoughts on the journal?
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:Tali: thoughts on the journal?
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:I think the journal is a great idea.
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:I don't think it's practical
for a lot of people.
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:So, you know, take from it what
you can and don't feel like
553
:any, you have to do any of it.
554
:Take, take from it what you
can and what you can apply.
555
:And that's the most important thing.
556
:Another thing I want to
mention from the book.
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:It's something that we've already
talked about before in the previous
558
:episodes, but I just want to reiterate
because it is, it is a common cultural
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:Scott: belief
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:Tali: I believe that I think we
should try to overcome, which
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:is this whole notion of talent.
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:, I just hear so many people say, Oh,
I'm just not good at math, almost like,
563
:therefore they shouldn't have to try kind
of thing, or I'm just not good at writing.
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:I, I suck at spelling or
something like that, like talent,
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:Trump's effort, and he makes it.
566
:A point in this book that if that as
parents, when you give feedback to your
567
:kids, the nuance is what determines
that the belief in one way or the
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:other, the, the talent versus effort.
569
:So for example, if your child comes
home and she's gotten an A, In math and
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:you say, Oh my gosh, you're so smart.
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:You're so good at math.
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:You're really highlighting
the talent side.
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:But if you say something like, I'm so
proud of you, you work so hard, then
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:you're emphasizing the effort side.
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:If she comes home and
she gets, let's say a C.
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:In English, you can, you don't have to
say, Oh, you know, terrible at English.
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:It's just not, it's not your strong suit.
578
:You can say something like, well, maybe
next time you work a little harder on your
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:paper and ask your teacher some questions.
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:That's what she's there for.
581
:She can help you.
582
:And then you emphasize that.
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:The effort is what is the most important.
584
:And in that way, you also empower
your child in whatever pursue,
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:you know, it down the road.
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:A book I would like to recommend
is called the talent code.
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:And it specifically addresses this,
this notion of talent versus effort.
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:It's a very, very small book.
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:You can look it up on
Amazon, the talent code.
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:Scott: on Amazon.
591
:Yeah, no, I remember you
talking about that previously.
592
:So some of these concepts
are going to tie.
593
:We've now, a lot of these things
tie into each other, so we can kind
594
:of go more quickly through them.
595
:I have a note here about the
idea of incremental learning
596
:and the feedback loops.
597
:So we've talked about how
he would break down things.
598
:He'd start with whatever it is and they
have his circles and he would get smaller
599
:and smaller and keep on, , refining.
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:You should explain
601
:Tali: what that means.
602
:Scott: So Yeah.
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:I wish I could do it as articulately as he
does, but I mean, when you, when you first
604
:go in to learn, for example, martial arts,
or I guess you could even use a chess,
605
:you're, you're not going to try to learn
the same type of things that a master in
606
:those areas is going to be focused on.
607
:Right.
608
:You don't, you don't go to a novice
in martial arts and talk about the
609
:opponent's breathing and where their
body weight is and whatever else
610
:you're just, you're going to, you
need to learn the muscle memory.
611
:Of the most basic movements so that
you can, you can get those down and the
612
:same thing with chess, like you said
earlier, where he learned how each piece
613
:worked and he learned how each pairing.
614
:So this is how the Knight
and the Bishop work together.
615
:This is how the Rook and
the Bishop work together.
616
:This is how the Knight, I mean,
and then you build up and build up
617
:and you eventually get to the point
where you're working on strategies.
618
:High level strategies as opposed to just
starting with here's an opening move.
619
:Here's your strategy on that
620
:Tali: Well, I will explain
it the opposite way.
621
:So I'll use Tai Chi Chan as an example.
622
:When you're a novice, you follow
the teacher and you understand the
623
:general, the steps, you know, the
choreography, the general way you
624
:should, , lift your arm and the way
that you should put one step forward and
625
:bend your knees and that kind of thing.
626
:So very general things, but eventually
as you get more and more advanced,
627
:you start to get into this really.
628
:Really nuance things like where
is your hip when you stand?
629
:Is it in the center of your
right foot like your hip weight?
630
:Is it to the left?
631
:Is it to the right?
632
:Is your weight on your big
toes, your weight on your heel?
633
:So when you get more advanced you
you start to break down each movement
634
:into smaller smaller pieces It's
the nuance in the nuance is how
635
:you win and improve your skills.
636
:Not the big flow.
637
:So it's like a 10, 000 foot You know
like Bert's eye view of what's going
638
:on and then eventually you, you funnel
narrower and narrower into the nuances.
639
:I think that's what you're
referring to, right?
640
:Scott: Well, I liked the
way you explained that.
641
:And that makes sense a lot with
a lot of his examples of, of what
642
:he was looking for when he was.
643
:What, when he was getting to the
highest levels of competition, the, the
644
:smallest of details and how much time
he spent on the things that he never
645
:would have even been able to notice
before, because he was trying to learn
646
:the, the, I think he used an analogy
of like learning to drive, right?
647
:Like you, first thing you need to do
is like, like the car needs to move.
648
:And so you just like learn how to
use the gas and the brakes, right?
649
:Uh, the nuances of.
650
:What's the weather like, the distance
one driver is keeping from another.
651
:Are they, how much are
they moving or swaying?
652
:Does that mean that they, maybe they're,
you know, they're, they're sleepy
653
:or on drugs or something like you.
654
:I forget what he used like that, but
you, the nuances of things, you can't see
655
:those details when you first start out.
656
:Because you're just focused on
the big, you're just learning the
657
:big, the big picture of things.
658
:, that's the also like
the muscle memory too.
659
:Like you, you can't focus
on the smaller things.
660
:If you're still trying
to do the basic things,
661
:all right.
662
:Um, Yeah, but they, , incremental
learning, feedback loops, the deep focus.
663
:We touched about that early on immersion.
664
:He, he certainly, uh, Waze can, he
is, he goes deep, he goes really,
665
:really deep on anything that he does.
666
:And I don't know if everybody.
667
:It has that, um, the willingness to,
to go as deep, but on the, on the other
668
:hand, let's, let's talk this quickly
to, to tools and technologies that are
669
:available today, we've talked about
that, like the whole idea of Jeff booth
670
:and tech where technology is going.
671
:It's very.
672
:You know, Bitcoin thing, it's that's
deflationary versus money, but you look
673
:at where AI is today and you look at
all the, the, the different things we
674
:have, you can, you can get creative and
use technology to help with feedback.
675
:Just the fact that you can record
things, um, at different levels.
676
:And now, now you could even probably
put some of those things you could play.
677
:If you were competing in chess, you could
probably put that into an AI, AI program.
678
:Let it analyze it for
you to, um, I don't know.
679
:I haven't tried that myself, but if you
want to look at where your heart rate is
680
:and you're breathing, you can get like a
Garmin watch and you can get feedback on,
681
:you know, how, how different things I, my
point is, I don't know exactly how to do.
682
:I do.
683
:I just know that., Get creative in
how you use technology and you don't
684
:have to get to a world class level
to have some benefit in your life.
685
:And there's a lot of things available
today that can help with feedback.
686
:So that was my thought on,
uh, on the feedback loops.
687
:Tali: Well, taking that tiny little
step further, he talks about how
688
:when you become ultra focused, you
can notice the tiniest thing that's
689
:happening within your own body.
690
:So you're talking about wearing
a garment for biofeedback.
691
:But I have found through meditation that
you know how people say, take your pulse
692
:and you got to find your, the vein on
your neck or the vein on your wrist,
693
:and then you can count the heartbeat.
694
:When you pay attention, you don't
need that because you can feel
695
:your heartbeat on your skin.
696
:So when he's in flow, when he is
absolutely focused across the table from
697
:his chest competitor or across the floor.
698
:You know, with his Tai Chi Chen
competitor, he can feel their breathing,
699
:he can feel the flicker of fear,
he can feel everything that they're
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:feeling as if it's his own because
he's paying that close attention.
701
:And I, I think even as we're relying
more and more on technology to give
702
:us feedback, don't forget how powerful
we already are within our own body.
703
:Scott: body.
704
:When we started off this discussion,
why did we pick Josh Wadeskin?
705
:And part of it is you can learn a lot
from like we were talking about, like
706
:a, an autobiography or biography.
707
:He actually does have a lot
of techniques where he says,
708
:here's my, my toolkit for that.
709
:But one of the things I liked
about it is he's a model.
710
:Like he has a, there's a, I have a mental
image now of someone who knows how to
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:get into flow based on his ability to.
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:Go through all the things we
were just talking about and
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:one of the reasons to pick him.
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:I'm sorry you went
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:Tali: just ask something as
you're mentioning the flow thing?
716
:I thought one more thing I want
to talk about from the book that
717
:he shared with us that I think
would be really interesting is one.
718
:I remember when the kids were really
little, we were told that babies needed
719
:a quiet place to sleep that when it's
nap time, it's like the phone is off the
720
:you, you pull down the shade, you close
the door and it's like silence and quiet.
721
:And you it's almost like you have
to create this environment in
722
:order to help your baby sleep.
723
:And he was talking about how when
he was playing chess, if there were
724
:external, um, Like interruptions.
725
:So, for example, when he was facing the
kid who was very, very, What's it called?
726
:Underhandedly tapping his
727
:Scott: his, uh,
728
:Tali: chest piece when he knew
that Josh was making a decision
729
:because he can read Josh too.
730
:That, that little imperceptible noise
was picked up by his subconscious
731
:mind and it distracted him.
732
:And then he said what he did going forward
was to train himself to be able to focus.
733
:in the middle of chaos.
734
:So he would turn up all different
genre of music and blast it in
735
:his room as he's trying to focus.
736
:And that was how he trained
his ability to focus.
737
:And I think that it's really important as
parents, we train our kids to be able to
738
:focus in the middle of chaos, because the
condition is never going to be perfect.
739
:And if we If we tell the kids that
conditions have to be perfect, as
740
:in turn off your music, as in pull
the shade down, you know, you have
741
:to sit in your chair and everything.
742
:Everybody has to be quiet.
743
:Everybody's a tiptoe
so that you can focus.
744
:Then then that's that's really
doing your child a disservice.
745
:Scott: Mm hmm.
746
:No, I, I agree with that.
747
:Um, it's interesting.
748
:So where, where I was going is.
749
:The one of the reasons to read
this book is he's interesting.
750
:He has a ton of really cool,
interesting stories throughout.
751
:This is not a, this is not a,
and then I did Y and then I
752
:did Z and then I did whatever.
753
:He has all kinds of
interesting stories in there.
754
:So it's real life.
755
:You can learn from it from, from a
parenting standpoint, you, you can, you
756
:can learn how to deal with stress better.
757
:We can learn how to deal with setbacks
better and distractions better.
758
:All of us can learn this even at a, as
an adult, we can do better with that.
759
:But there's also things you can
take away from it for your kids, no
760
:matter what, what level they're at.
761
:You just have to adapt what those.
762
:What those concepts are.
763
:So if you're trying to teach
how to embrace loss to, uh, an
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:elementary age student, that's
probably gonna be different than.
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:A middle aged student and the things
that you would ask in a high school,
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:Tali: necessarily embrace loss
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:Scott: Yeah.
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:Tali: learn from loss, I think.
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:Scott: he embraced it.
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:Yeah, that's what he
called the investment in,
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:Tali: He called it investment in
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:Scott: investment in loss.
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:Tali: embracing loss.
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:Scott: I took it.
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:No, I took it as he's embracing loss.
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:That was my interpretation of it.
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:He, he was seeking that because he
knew that's how he would get better.
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:He intentionally.
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:What he would, those were the, he didn't
get better by just winning, right?
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:He didn't get better by
having things come easy.
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:All of his points where he got to the
next level were because he had a challenge
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:and he had to overcome that challenge.
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:It was the loss.
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:It was a distraction.
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:It was the feelings.
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:It was not being able to
focus, whatever it was.
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:I took it as he really embraces
it when he says, invest in loss.
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:Like he's saying, instead of
me getting mad about this.
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:Um, this is my fuel.
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:This is making me better.
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:Tali: he did describe it as
somebody when he would lose a game.
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:He described it as somebody
ripping the heart out of his
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:chest and stumping on it on
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:Scott: floor.
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:I would
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:Tali: call it embracing loss.
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:He literally is investing in loss so that
he can learn from loss so that he can win.
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:Scott: did he do after he did that though?
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:He didn't give up.
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:Tali: He didn't give up, but he
did, he did emphasize the importance
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:of stepping away from the game.
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:So he talked about his, his
family taking him fishing.
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:After big competitions, he would
just go on a boat and be on the
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:beach and chase, you know, run around
with the, the The kids who were, who
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:were there, they're his playmates.
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:And he was able to really fully step away.
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:And you know, when he said he would
come back from a competition, like some
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:famous world competition and his friends
at school would just say, how'd it go?
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:He'll say, I want to be like gay.
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:And then they will be
outside playing football.
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:You need that mental break
from this intensity of
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:Scott: and competing
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:Tali: learning and competing
and things like that.
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:And I think that's.
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:That's something that's important for
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:Scott: but he, but
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:Tali: know as well.
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:Scott: what, when I mean embrace
it, yes, he had that break.
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:He came back to it when he was
in a different, more calm state.
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:But he still went through the tapes.
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:He still went through his journal.
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:He still went through whatever
feedback he could get.
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:He didn't just take a break
and then come back and
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:Tali: No,
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:Scott: practicing.
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:He was, he
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:Tali: it.
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:He faced his losses.
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:He didn't shy away from his losses.
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:He learned from his, his losses.
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:And in that way he got
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:Scott: he got better.
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:Right.
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:And I don't think most people, I'm
trying to use his words, I don't
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:think most people would invest.
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:That time to rip apart in
great detail, their losses.
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:Most people would say they're
probably glad it's done.
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:What does he do?
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:He embraces it and he goes back and
says, I'm going to go work through this.
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:I'm going to figure out what happened.
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:And yeah, he had a lot of moments
where things didn't go his way,
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:but that's, I mean, that's part of
why this is an interesting read.
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:Tali: I can't remember who it was.
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:It might have been Zig Ziglar.
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:Uh, he's the sales coach and
the, the phrase goes like this.
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:If you want to, if you want to succeed
faster, you got to fail even faster.
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:Scott: Right.
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:Tali: If you want to succeed
fast, you got to fail even faster.
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:Scott: Right.
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:Yeah.
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:That, that to me is
investing in, in the loss.
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:So if you teach, if you teach
your kids that, or you learn that.
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:Then yeah, there's, you're not going to
go through life and not have setbacks.
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:So your, your choice is
what do you do about it?
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:Right.
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:And he, if you, if you read this
book and you're inspired, maybe
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:you can learn to invest in loss
and use it to make you yourself
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:better, use it to advance your goals.
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:So I'm just saying, that's how I took
it that he's embracing this thing.
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:That,
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:Tali: Okay.
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:So, so I would encourage.
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:For the homeschoolers out there, I would
encourage you to use living books like
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:this as much as possible because you can
have lots of really lively discussions
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:with your kids at the dinner table.
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:They will take away from it
what they need in that moment.
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:And the beauty of hearing lessons in
story form is that we remember them.
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:Because if you just give them a
lecture and you just give them the
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:nuggets, they're not going to remember.
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:But if you tell them the
story when they need it.
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:It'll come up for them.
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:So yeah, more living books.
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:Check out this one.
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:Scott: It's a
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:Tali: It's a great read.
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:And, um, I really think that
the family can have some
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:really interesting discussions.
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:Scott: really interesting discussions.
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:I think that is perfect advice.
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:Yeah, the more living books and then
having the discussions about them so that
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:you can actually get, you know, literally
have a human discussion, not be on there
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:just texting or whatever people do now.
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:So um, I think we wrap up right
there because that, that's what
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:I would take away from this thing
is if you don't, don't trust us,
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:verify, get the book yourself.
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:And if you don't, then get
a different living book.
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:But the concept of using them, like you
said, It's a huge, hugely effective way
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:of reaching others and making an impact.
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:Plus you get to learn some
pretty interesting stuff.
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:Well, thank you everybody
for, for joining us.
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:We'll be back next week until then.
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:See you, see you later.