Episode 4
₿HS004: Overcoming the Fear of Overwhelm
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Homeschooling is a commitment. You are investing your precious time and attention for the long-term success and happiness of your children. In this conversation, Tali and Scott deep dive the common fear of being overwhelmed.
IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:
- A common question from those considering homeschooling is how to not lose yourself
- Homeschooling is not as hard as you might think
- It’s okay if spouses don’t agree on all aspects (feature not a bug)
- You have a lot of options, each with varying impacts on time for yourself
- Just start … then adjust. It’s a process you continually tweak.
- You don’t need to have plan for entire K-12 experience. Planning out a month or two in advance is fine.
- Part-time private schools are one option
- Co-ops offer additional benefit, the opportunity to share your passions
- Extended family plans
- Homeschooling play groups and field trips
- Every homeschooling mom, no matter how devoted needs time to herself to recoup and regenerate
- There are so many resources: Mom’s groups, churches, online curriculum, etc.
- Finding homeschooling groups and play groups in your area
- Always do a tour before committing to a program
- Consider attending homeschooling conventions
- Homeschoolers are very much like Bitcoiners. They're very, very friendly, open, and more than happy to share experience.
- Stay flexible and know that it's going to be okay. Take one step at a time.
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Transcript
Well welcome everybody.
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:This is exciting.
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:We were talking today in Nashville.
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:We're visiting Bitcoin park.
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:And it's really nice.
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:It's a beautiful fall time of the year.
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:And one of the things that's
interesting at Bitcoin park is.
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:We're seeing people come with
their kids, really young kids.
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:Um, infants and it's just inspiring.
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:And it reminds us of what
we're doing with this podcast.
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:. If you're new, the show husband
and wife team we're Bitcoiners.
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:We spent 20 years
homeschooling our four kids.
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:And the purpose of this, this podcast is
to share our stories or lessons learned
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:and to share any resources we can.
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:On self casting education.
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:And today we're going to deep dive.
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:Something that was a question or
maybe really, really a comment that
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:was made to Talia at a recent event.
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:So Tali, why don't you tell them?
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:Yeah.
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:I was talking to a young mom and
she knew that we were homeschoolers
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:and she approached us and said, , I
would love to homeschool, but I'm
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:afraid that if I choose to do that,
I'm going to lose myself completely.
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:They get it.
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:It.
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:I mean, homeschooling is a.
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:Huge undertaking.
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:If you're choosing to do a full time.
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:I think there is a
spectrum of homeschooling.
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:You can do it even if your kids
are going to public school, but
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:she was specifically referencing.
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:If she were to dive in full time.
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:Homeschooling her three kids.
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:So today we want to just talk a little
bit about our thoughts on that question.
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:A very valid question.
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:And.
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:Based on not only our personal
experience, but things that we have
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:observed over the last two decades.
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:We'll share with you and hope
that you will find it helpful.
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:All right.
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:Well, so.
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:Tell us about this
conversation you had then.
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:How did the, how did you answer her?
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:And we would start there.
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:Well, I, I acknowledged her
concern because it is really
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:easy when you start as mothers.
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:You start to put your
children's needs and wants and.
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:Um, Basically, well, just
needs a ones above your own.
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:And if you, on top of being a young
mom, And chasing after your kids and
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:trying to take care of the house and.
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:Grocery shop and make the healthiest
food choices that you can.
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:Oh, that's seven.
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:And on top of that, having to think
about schooling, your kids, it
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:does sound very, very overwhelming.
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:And truthfully it is going to
take a lot of mental energy.
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:But it does.
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:It's not necessarily as hard as you
think it might be because today there
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:are so many resources out there.
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:Making homeschooling, you have very, very
flexible, very, um, What's it called?
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:Not the opposite of one size fits all.
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:Personal, it can be.
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:It can be very, very
approached, personalized.
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:You can, you can tailor, you
can tailor your homeschooling
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:according to your resources in time.
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:And money and energy and still do a
fabulous job, uh, far superior to.
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:What a public school can do.
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:Yeah.
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:So in my mind, , I see
kind of three steps.
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:The first step that I recall is you.
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:You need to, you need to have
alignment with your partner.
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:On what you're trying to do.
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:So you need to.
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:At least have a conversation
about what it is, what are those.
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:Homeschooling is proof of work.
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:You're going to invest your energy.
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:That's what you're, you're
making a decision to do.
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:But you need to have that
and it's okay to disagree.
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:Like don't, I don't think.
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:That has to be 100%.
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:I think it's actually
a feature, not a bug.
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:Uh, for parents too, to work things out.
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:And the second thing is.
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:Take a, uh, Take a look at what
your options are, because as you
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:just said, it's very personal.
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:You can do anything from look, we're going
to put them in the public school system.
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:We're just going to teach them at
night and on weekends with our,
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:with extra stuff, it could be.
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:Uh, private school.
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:It could be one of these schools
that does does one or two days of.
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:A week.
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:It could be dropping them
off at a family member.
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:You have a lot of options.
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:Two.
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:To decide.
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:How much time you need for yourself.
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:So if this person that came to you
is worried about losing herself.
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:And being overwhelmed.
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:To me, there's this whole second step
of like, you have this menu of options.
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:And then the third step is.
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:You start, you, you commit to it.
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:You start it.
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:And then, you know, you can adjust.
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:This is not, Hey, I made a decision
and we have to stay this way forever.
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:You go on.
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:And you learn.
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:So the first thing is
you, you get aligned.
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:Second thing is you.
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:You look at your options.
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:And the third thing is you.
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:You test them out and, and then
if you say, I want to go deeper on
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:this, I want to spend more time.
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:Okay.
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:Fine.
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:You.
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:Go more to you.
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:Get you get more involved.
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:If you say I am feeling overwhelmed.
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:I do feel like I'm losing myself.
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:You say.
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:Let me look at those options.
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:That gives me more time.
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:You have.
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:You have a lot of.
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:Opportunity.
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:To adjust you don't
you're not locked into it.
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:Forever.
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:You know, that's, that's kind of
like, that's what I see is the
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:kind of from a process standpoint.
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:Of what it looks like.
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:Well, a lot of homeschooling
families would do this.
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:So they start praying.
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:If you're a praying kind of person,
they start praying about the school.
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:Year over the summer and they make
a decision for that school year.
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:And they summer, they try it for
a year and then they always then.
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:Pray about the following year.
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:So they take it really
one school year at a time.
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:It is, it seems so
overwhelming to think K to 12.
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:Oh my God.
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:I gotta have, I gotta have
this whole long-term plan.
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:You don't, you're really planning
about nine months at a time.
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:So for example, one year.
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:Uh, for our youngest, he was
eight years old at the time.
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:And we up until then had been primarily
doing all of the subjects ourselves.
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:And I decided if for.
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:For, um, just for the
sake of making friends.
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:There are his own age.
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:Cause he tended to be he's our youngest.
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:He's going to, to.
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:To be exposed to older kids
through his siblings activity.
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:So for his own sake, I wanted to
put him in a situation where he
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:was exposed to other homeschoolers.
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:He's all age.
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:And I was already running around.
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:All the all different places
because of the older siblings.
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:And I just felt like I wanted to
give him something that was his own.
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:And with kids his own age,
Within the social parameter of
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:other homeschooling families.
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:So I put him in a, what I will call it
a private, a part-time private school.
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:So there's two days a week.
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:It covered all the subjects.
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:It was Tuesday, Thursday,
and then Monday was a Friday.
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:He had homework to do, and I
just supervised his homework.
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:But Tuesday, Thursday, it
was a drop off situation.
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:Right.
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:So he was there for, uh, I think
he, we dropped him off at nine
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:and we picked him up at three.
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:So about six hours included laundry
size and all the different subjects.
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:I recovered.
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:So he was there for one year and
every day I, when I picked him up,
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:we will go over his day as a whole.
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:What did you learn?
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:Who did you hang out with?
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:How was it?
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:What was it like with your
friends on the playground?
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:What was your teacher like?
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:And then of course, I was also
just, uh, overseeing his projects
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:and his homework and things.
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:And towards the end of the year, actually,
like, it wasn't even towards the end of
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:the year, it was halfway through the year
and the school was already preparing to
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:do registration for the following year.
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:I had to sit down with
my then eight year old.
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:Uh, sun and Isaiah, what do you
think, is this something that
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:you would like to continue with?
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:Are you making.
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:Friends.
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:And do you feel good there?
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:And he said, I don't like it there because
you've put me in a room full of babies.
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:And I said, they're not babies.
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:They're your age.
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:And some of them are older, but
he's so used to being exposed to.
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:His oldest siblings and his
older siblings, friends.
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:That he felt uncomfortable
there and together we made the
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:decision to not continue, but he
had that the nine months there.
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:So it's a, it's a process that
you can continue to tweak as you,
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:your life circumstances, change.
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:And.
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:In that case, if he was my oldest, right.
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:If I yell, if he had younger
siblings and he was my oldest.
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:I could have done the same thing.
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:I could have dropped him off Tuesday,
Thursday, and then just knew that
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:all the subjects were covered and
then just had to help him with
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:homework Monday, Wednesday, Friday.
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:And that would give me free time
to take care of the younger kids.
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:So this situation could be reversed
in that case, it would work for.
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:The family, according to what their need.
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:Gotcha.
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:So two things come to mind.
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:One is that.
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:There's other things we can go down and.
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:The list of options to choose and what
we either witnessed, or you, you tried.
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:And then the other thing is, are we.
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:We are answering the question of
what this person asked you in that.
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:So did that help you?
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:Or would that help the
person who's worried about?
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:Being overwhelmed and not, or
didn't want to lose themselves.
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:Yes.
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:In this case for that particular
family who was asking me this question.
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:Her kids were, um, I think
kindergarten and younger.
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:And she was pregnant
in the first semester.
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:Uh, first trimester.
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:So in her case, if she wanted to
go that route, She had a newborn,
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:assuming, uh, when, when she
decides you there's the baby's born.
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:She has a newborn and then she
has a five-year-old I think it
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:might've been a three-year-old.
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:Five-year-old three-year-old and a
newborn, then she could have dropped off.
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:The failure and the three-year-old
every Tuesday, Thursday, and new that
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:a Monday, Wednesday, Friday, she didn't
have to worry about coming up with
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:curriculum or coming up with material.
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:All she had to do was to supervise
and the rest of the time they can
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:just enjoy today and just know
the schooling is taken care of.
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:Okay.
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:So in that case was she
necessarily lose herself.
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:I would say no, as long as the tuition
is something that you can manage.
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:And you're okay with them going
into a traditional classrooms
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:situation because that's, you
always make a pros and cons list.
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:Right?
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:So in the case of the example that
I'm giving, which is a part-time.
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:Private school situation where
you, you drop off part of the week.
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:They are sitting in a traditional
classroom and they, it is a lecture
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:lecture based teaching style.
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:They, it is texts textbook based.
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:So if you don't mind that, then
this is a really great option.
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:Okay.
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:Cool.
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:All right.
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:So let's what we'll do is we'll just go
through the list of different options.
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:And then we'll just try to come back
to the original question and see
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:where we're at rates on the scale.
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:So the next one.
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:Co-ops and maybe explain
what, what co-ops are.
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:And then, and then we tie it
back to the same question of how
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:does it help or not help with.
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:Your time to yourself
to not lose yourself.
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:Yeah, so you can join a homeschool at
co-op and a co-op usually is once a week
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:and it's PA it's families coming together.
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:So it's not, definitely
not a drop off situation.
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:Families come together, parents either.
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:Volunteer, uh, as just admin people or
they've volunteered to teach, or they
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:volunteer to watch the younger kids who
are not old enough to go into a classroom.
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:Then the parents who teach,
they teach based on their own
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:interests and backgrounds.
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:So you're not going to necessarily
get the academic exposure there
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:because you don't from one.
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:Year to another.
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:You're not sure what
classes would be available.
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:Right.
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:It would be like one pair and
maybe really loves knitting.
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:So she provides a knitting class.
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:One parent maybe is really great at math.
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:And so he does a math games class.
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:One parent may be really
good at cooking or gardening.
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:So they do a gardening class.
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:So it's more like electives, mostly what
I have seen in homeschooling co-ops.
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:The classes are offered by the parents
are mostly more like electives.
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:So you're still going to have to teach the
core math and English at home yourself.
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:Uh, less there's a parent in the co-op
specifically offering something for that.
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:But the benefit of it is the
whole family is together.
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:When you have, when
lunchtime comes around.
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:All the families are sitting together.
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:The kids are playing.
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:It's a very family oriented thing, but you
don't get free time in terms of walking
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:away, but you do get the friendship
with other homeschooling moms and dads.
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:Well, I, I would say the other thing
in context of not losing yourself,
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:what you do get is you could
volunteer to teach something you like.
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:So if your hobby is ceramics or
painting or whatever your hobby is.
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:You volunteered to teach your subject.
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:And so now instead of losing.
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:You time.
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:On something that is part of who you are.
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:You actually get to share
that with other other people.
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:And while you're doing that, it's sort
of like specialization in a free market.
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:You're going to specialize in your area.
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:You're really good at.
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:Uh, just take a painting.
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:If that was your hobby.
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:Or maybe it's photography or programming.
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:Maybe you can get into
robotics with your kids.
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:It doesn't matter.
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:Whatever your subject is
that you like to teach about?
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:Do you like to spend time on you?
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:Go spend time.
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:It could be sports too.
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:The kids could go play.
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:You really like sports.
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:So you teach your kids,
flag football or something.
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:Kickball the little square game
with the bonk downs, whatever it is.
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:And it gives you a little bit of time
to focus on what you like while somebody
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:else is going deep on something they like.
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:So.
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:Maybe you speak Chinese
and you can speak Chinese.
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:So that persons over teaching a language
and someone else is doing chemistry.
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:So to me, Co-ops.
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:You're still spending time, but I
think the benefit on the question
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:of how not to lose yourself is.
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:You, you also get this, this
opportunity to be who you are and yeah.
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:And you can share your passion, which
is, uh, which is a beautiful thing
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:in and of itself because yeah, we're
all looking for people who share.
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:Our hobby and passion and common interest.
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:And you get to teach that
to the younger generation.
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:And I think that can be
NSL, very fulfilling.
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:And another pro about doing the
homeschooling co-op is your kids are
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:also learning from other people who
are passionate about this subject.
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:Versus going to a school, maybe
being taught by a teacher who is
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:forced to teach something that
they literally have no interest in.
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:All right, let's go to the next one.
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:The list.
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:And this one you may not be able
to do all the time, depending on.
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:If you have extended family nearby.
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:So we may have to use an example
of what else you've witnessed,
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:but the next one on the list is.
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:Time with family.
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:So for example, you, every
whatever day is the day that
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:someone's going to be with grandma.
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:That kind of thing.
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:I don't think we'll call it this.
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:That like an extended family.
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:Plan.
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:That's the next, that's the next one?
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:Yeah, so.
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:I knew a family where the grandparents
were really active in the children's
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:lives and they would have grandma days.
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:And, um, the Gramma day, literally
the mom would drop off the kids, our
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:grandma's house, and then she'll have
the day to herself, whether she wanted
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:to pursue something that she's interested
in, or just have a quiet house to do
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:what she needs to do around the house.
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:So that's another way if you wanted
to just school full time yourself,
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:but just have one day free to take
care of other things, to still have
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:your own space, your own mental space.
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:That would really work.
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:If you don't have.
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:Parents are nearby, or if you don't
have that kind of relationship.
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:Or opportunity then perhaps you can, um,
partner with another homeschooling family
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:because everybody really needs that.
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:Every homeschooling mom, no
matter how devoted needs time.
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:To herself to recoup and regenerate.
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:We recharge.
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:And so if you join a homeschooling
co-op of any kind, or if you join.
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:Um, they're always homeschooling
playgroups, especially
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:if your kids are young.
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:Homeschooling playgroups is a
very, very big thing and they take
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:a lots of field trips together.
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:You'll get to know other families
and hopefully you make a couple
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:close friends and then you can
partner up and share time off.
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:You know, and, and that could really,
that can really alleviate that feeling of
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:heavy burden when you're homeschooling.
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:And you're you feel like you
have to be on all the time.
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:Right.
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:But playgroups are very, very big thing.
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:Moms groups, you can find them everywhere
if you're a part of a church, for sure.
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:They have connections to the moms groups.
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:There's.
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:If you even just Google mom group
in your area, um, they're not
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:necessarily necessarily going to
also be homeschooling moms, but.
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:. You never know what people are able to.
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:Work together to create.
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:Okay.
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:Then I did.
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:Just two more quick and
then we can get into the.
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:Where do you start to find
out for your own area?
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:Um, on one end of the spectrum.
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:And the furthest end might be,
uh, you max out how much time
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:somebody else is doing it.
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:Like some places you can go.
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:And there you're called
homeschoolers, but.
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:Like they're basically gone.
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:Most of them.
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:Yeah.
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:Time let's cover that one.
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:First.
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:I was going to call it a
hundred percent private, but
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:that's not really what that is.
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:Let's what do you call the most extreme?
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:Keys.
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:Where.
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:You're still homeschooling, but you're
spending the least amount of time.
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:Actually doing the schooling.
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:Well, you.
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:Uh, okay.
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:So that's a little bit different from
physical separation, like your ability
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:to drop them off and not be worried about
them in that other people are responsible
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:for your child during that time.
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:And you're completely freed.
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:Freed up to do other things,
but if you're, if you're not
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:talking about physical separation,
you're just talking about.
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:Delegating the task of teaching.
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:You can buy these
curriculums either online.
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:Where they say, it's almost like
what they did during coven, which is
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:all the, all the classes are online.
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:You sign them up and they
sign into a life teacher.
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:They get taught and they
do their homework and they.
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:They get feedback from the teacher.
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:They take tests where the
teacher and you're literally just
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:providing space in a computer.
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:Right.
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:And maybe a little bit of supervision.
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:Most of the time the kids would be home.
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:But you are not responsible for the
teaching of a, you just choose the
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:classes that you want them to to learn.
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:That's the most extreme, like hands off
thing where you're just not part of that.
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:All.
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:So my point in bringing that up is that.
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:There are some parents who
say they are homeschoolers.
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:If you asked them that
those other homeschoolers.
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:But they have tried to
outsource to the max.
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:Yeah, they don't teach at all.
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:Right.
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:Yeah.
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:Then.
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:Then you have the other side
of spectrum, which is the last
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:one I wanted to talk about.
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:And that was where you just, this
is your you've decided this is
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:your passion and your, you actually
want it to be a hundred percent.
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:So maybe we talk about.
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:You have people who.
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:Enjoy it so much.
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:They, they want to go deep on
everything and be involved with
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:literally teaching everything.
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:So if they're teaching everything, how
do they still keep a part of themselves?
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:Well, I think it's almost, it
almost is it answers itself.
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:You've already decided that what
makes you happy is the teaching.
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:So you are doing what you like.
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:And that sense, right?
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:Um, I just bring it up as it, on
the spectrum of options available.
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:That some people will go to the,
go to the other side of this.
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:And they enjoy it.
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:Like they actually choose to
make the, they say I have a
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:choice that I want to make.
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:I want to, I want to take on
that level of responsibility.
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:Okay.
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:So if you.
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:The method that I think that comes to mind
is Charlotte Mason, which is a very, very
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:You gathered the books.
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:You do everything.
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:And in those cases for.
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:I mean, that's basically
what I did in the beginning.
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:And it is very overwhelming because
while you're teaching the kids, you are
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:thinking about what to cook for dinner.
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:And while you're eating dinner, you
thinking about what lesson plan to
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:prepare for the next day kind of thing.
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:So it is, it can be very overwhelming
and those cases, I will just say on the
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:weekend, Um, just make sure that your
partner or your friends or your family
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:can give you a couple of ours off just to.
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:Just to recharge any way that you want.
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:If that means you go to the gym.
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:If he goes in the sauna, if you.
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:They'll take a walk outside though.
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:In those cases, I think you just need
to have very deliberate agreements
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:and it doesn't even have to be
some large chunk of time either.
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:It can just be a short,
like, okay, for the next 45
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:minutes, I'm taking a walk and.
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:I'm by myself and it's okay for the
kids to watch blue, not blues clues.
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:So you can't watch that now.
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:It's a weird, it's like woke now.
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:Um, to watch something educational
while you with dad or grandma,
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:and then you go off for a walk
and I think that's okay too.
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:Yeah.
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:All right.
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:So those are five general buckets.
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:You can.
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:Make up your own and mix mix any way.
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:Let's let's I think the next
question that would be on my mind.
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:So I'm imagining this, this person.
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:I didn't talk to her, but.
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:She's she wants to, if she asked
you, how do I not lose myself?
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:I think this might be overwhelming.
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:You said here's here's here are these
different examples of buckets of options.
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:We just went through.
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:And the next question
would be well in my area.
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:How do I start?
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:Like we're so let's maybe let's cover.
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:If you're, if you're that person.
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:And you now know, okay, I've got these
options, but how do I figure out what
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:program is actually available near me?
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:The best place to go for a homeschooler
is going to be the Facebook.
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:So go into Facebook type in
homeschool and type in your city name.
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:If you are not in a big city, then you
might have to use Google and, and do a
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:dig a little deeper, but honestly, any
homeschooling group that that's active.
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:Close to your area, even if
it's not right in your area.
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:There will be people there
who can direct you, different
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:places, different resources.
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:If you go in there and ask.
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:Just say, can, will you please
direct me to a homeschool?
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be that sort of the elective classes
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:that you can go and network with.
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:Networking connect with other
homeschooling families as units.
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:If you ask about a
drop-off kind of program.
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:I'm not sure there's a specific term
for, I've heard it all different ways,
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be some kind of homeschool academy
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:or homeschool Christian academy or.
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they will be drop-off situations.
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:And I personally call it part-time
private school, but homeschoolers might
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:be offended if you set that, but just
say like some kind of drop off program.
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:And they should be able to direct you.
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:But the way.
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:I'll in my mind.
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:What I hear is you're saying.
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:Go talk to them in person though.
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:Go out.
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:You know, you find them on
Facebook, but go talk to them.
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:Right and find out what they are
before you just, you're not gonna
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:just like sign up for something.
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:No, you always do a tour first.
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:Always, no matter what you do, you can,
the co-ops will give you yours for.
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:The, um, something like
classical conversation, which is.
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:Combination co-op N private school.
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:Um, part-time private school.
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:Like they would, there's always gonna be
somebody who's willing to give you a tour.
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:And you can observe first before making
a decision, but if your kids are very
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:young star with just a playgroup,
That's the best place to go and
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:make connections and ask questions.
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:Okay.
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:So then you have.
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:You mentioned Facebook.
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:So you're finding them online.
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:Go and talk to them.
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:You also have.
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:You mentioned churches.
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:There are a lot of churches where.
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:There's a big homeschooling
community within.
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:Whatever.
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:Denomination that is.
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:It's very popular in churches.
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:Yeah.
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:So that's the second one.
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:I guess you'd go to meetups.
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:You can go to a Bitcoin meetup and
it's probably less likely you're going
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:to find someone who's already doing.
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:Um, And you're the only
other, other options.
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:The other thing I thought of that I did
not know about when our kids were young.
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:Was there are actually conventions.
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:Oh, yeah.
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:Yes.
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:Yes, absolutely homeschool conventions.
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:There are many, many, many of them.
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:It starts, they start in the late spring
and go all the way into early fall.
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:And they differ by.
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:Um, the approaches.
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:So maybe we'll do an episode on just the
different approaches of homeschooling.
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:So they can take different.
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:Can't understand the difference
because you have the Charlotte Mason,
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:people who do their conventions,
you have the Costco conversation.
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:People will do the conventions.
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:You have, um, Christian
homeschool conventions.
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:And I know that there are
secular homeschool conventions.
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:A lot of conventions, a lot of
them that a lot of conventions.
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:Yeah.
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:And also, I just want to say.
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:Homeschoolers are very
much like Bitcoiners.
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:They're very, very friendly
and they are, everybody's more
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:than happy to share experience.
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:And, um, they're very open.
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:They're open people.
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:So.
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:Gotcha.
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:Okay.
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:So.
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:Again, this is all inspired by
a question that was, and this
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:question's come up in different ways.
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:The same type of questions come up
to you multiple times is how do you.
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:Not be overwhelmed.
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:How do you keep yourself?
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:I think one of the,
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:one of the more extreme version
of that question or statement is,
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:oh, I can't possibly homeschool.
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:I'm going to kill my children.
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:And.
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:Okay.
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:Yeah.
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:That you don't want to get
to, you don't get that far.
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:Um, alone, but I mean, kids are,
that's part of, to me, the joy of
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:parenting is you're, you're going to
learn a lot about yourself because
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:you're, you're going to be in this.
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:You're going to be.
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:Uh, pushed in ways you didn't
know you could be, be pushed,
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:but I, I think that's a good.
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:A good thing.
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:And again, from my point of view,
We're just saying, listen, where
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:we homeschooled for 20 years.
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:We understand the Bitcoin point of view.
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:Here are some of the stories and
ideas to help and resources to help.
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:And other people.
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:So I think we've.
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:Hopefully we've covered that.
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:And then I guess the, I would
leave it as we're pretty open.
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:If, if somebody.
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:Doesn't feel comfortable or still is
it still has something that they're
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:questioning on that reach out to us?
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:If we didn't answer that question?
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:Well, enough.
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:Reach out to Tali or myself
on Twitter or our email or the
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:website, whatever, whatever way
you're comfortable reaching out.
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:And we're happy to help try to.
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:Try to get you through the process
of thinking through or how to reach
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:out and see what the options are.
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:So that's, that's all I had on
the list for days or anything at
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:any other final thoughts that you
had Tali for before we wrap up?
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:I just want to say that it is,
is, seems really overwhelming, but
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:it is very doable because it is.
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:Like I mentioned earlier.
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:It's not something where
it's such a giant project.
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:You have to plan many years ahead.
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:You can plan a few months at a time.
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:And you can continue to
adjust because you don't know.
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:What your true capacity is
for these kinds of challenges.
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:Uh, in homeschooling until
you're in the thick of it.
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:And then maybe you realize that
you can actually tolerate a lot
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:more than you realized, or you
can tell me less, but either way.
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:Once you find out where your limit is,
you start to look for solutions like
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:working with your family and friends for
time off or looking for these part-time
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:private school situation where you.
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:Get a few days off because
that's why you need.
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:And, you know, don't feel guilty.
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:It's completely fine.
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:Homeschooling is going to be.
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:A pause.
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:Kind of, yeah, it's constant
adjustment and kind of things.
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:So don't feel bad either
way, stay flexible and know
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:that it's going to be okay.
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:One step in front of the other.
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:Yeah.
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:That's really good advice.
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:You're going to be okay.
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:Your kids are going to be okay.
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:And we didn't, at least I didn't
have the confidence to start.
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:We just needed to get moving.
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:And then later on, after you've
looked back, you'd be like, oh
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:yeah, I'm capable of doing that.
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:I can do that.
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:I need you.
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:You realize you actually, you
already have what you need to do
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:this, but you don't start with that.
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:You, you feel overwhelmed maybe.
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:But, um, But yeah, you, you,
you're going to be fine.
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:I think that's great advice.
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:All right, everybody.
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:Well, we'll we, uh, we're doing
this to try to help folks.
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:If people have questions you want us to,
to address, let us know what they are.
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:And we'll catch you next week.
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:Bye have a good week.